In this part of the world, the general belief is that love making is the business of men. So, they take the ‘thumbs up’ or ‘tongue lashes’ of the outcome of any session.
Many believe women are at the receiving end and do not really have much input to the exercise. But this is wrong. As long as it takes two to tango, it is important that we both look more into this act of life.
However, some women would not want to labeled as belonging in the old wives’ class. Still, I say if you think your performance between the sheets is stellar and sexy, such that your man does not have to think otherwise or look elsewhere for more heat, you may have to consider these points raised by some sex therapists.
According to them, a woman needs to step up her sexual routine if she is guilty of the following:
If the bedroom is an extension of your office
See, the bedroom is an exclusive place for sleep and sex. So, if you have your work tools such as computers, Laptops, IPads, notepads and other things relevant to your work in your bedroom and you make use of them, your guy will definitely find you boring in bed. You turn him off with this attitude. You are to curl up with him and not your work while in bed. No office memo is a turn-on.
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If you neglect foreplay
Most women feel foreplay is the sole work of men, but this is wrong. Most guys love getting, not just giving oral action. So, if you just lie down waiting for him to do all the touching and licking, you are simply showing that you are not good enough in bed and believe me, your man is probably wishing it were better. I mean he is worried and wants more. God helps you if he gets handled by another woman who knows better.
If you jump out of bed the second it’s over
No doubt, you need to clean up when the party is over but you shouldn’t really run into the loo the minute the deed is done. There is a romantic way you two can go about it. See, your running to the bathroom does not mean you are neat o. You send a repulsive signal to your man instead. Some men love cleaning up for you, having you resting in his arms for a while before you two shower together.
Guys actually love the cuddle after. What’s even wrong in sleeping off after everything? I tell you all is in the spirit of romance still. Take advantage of the sweet and quiet moment and say some sweet words into his ears. Give him a gentle massage to prolong the excitement and who knows? this may just lead to another sizzling round of fun.
If you hang around in dirty wears
If you are one of those women who only dress well when going out, but tie wrappers or wear just anything at home especially at bedtime, you can’t be good in bed. As a matter of fact, you cannot appeal to your man. Taking time to wear sexy stuffs in the bedroom are suggestive to men no matter their spiritual level.
Even Imams and Pastors whose doctrines include long flowing dresses and head covering for women love it when their women wear revealing clothes at home. A heavily-bearded Muslim friend once told me that their wives are free to move nakedly about in the house for him to behold. Call them selfish if you like but truly, a woman’ s nakedness should be for her man only.
So, if he adores your tiny waist, your cleavage, your hips, your fine skin, invest in lingeries that shows them off. Once he sees them, he quickly gets the signal, which is good for your own records. But if you care less about all this, then, you are simply bad in bed.
You talk about how your ex was in bed
Who does this please? Yet, some women do. For whatever excitement, no man wants to be compared to his predecessors. It doesn’t even feel good to think he has one let alone talking about it. You don’t also want him to do the same to you, so, watch it. Flatter him instead. Tell him he is the best you’ve ever had and specifically point out what he does outstandingly. This lingers in his memory and will prompt him to look out for more ways to please you.
If your pre-sex routine is longer than the act itself
If before you join him in bed, you always spend longer time in the bathroom brushing your teeth, bathing and scrubbing all kinds of places, applying this and that, your man is likely to be put off. See, having sex with you is a major thing he wants to do. If the preparations get too much, he may be put off.
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Getting it up may just be difficult again. Don’t forget sex is a thing of the mind, so, do not drive his mind off the main act. For most men, a show of your ‘intimates’ is enough to turn them on. If you will play on that and smell good, oh, they are simply overgame.
If your style has become a routine
Honestly, you are bad in bed if you have made the act business as usual. I mean if your sex style is the same comfortable, lazy type, you may need to work on it. If your man is sexually weak and boring, well, you have nothing to worry about. But if in the course of love making, he comes up with one or two new styles, then, you should step up your game too.
Go on a research about how to have a hot out-of-the-regular home-sex routine. Even if it is going to be for a night, it will be okay to have it hot and weird. Just being out of your element will neither kill nor make you a ‘bad girl’.
It can only add more excitement. And you know what? That will be a challenge to your man.
This is not to make any woman a porn star overnight. The purpose is to help you re-examine your sex life, have more fun and keep any possible intruder in check.
