(TALKING S*X) Getting your pregnant partner in the mood

Well, that feeling of not wanting to have sex is not strange, you know? Not with the regular throwing up, your puffy nose, lips and body changes but you need to be reminded that there are benefits associated with pregnancy sex.Yes, there are and  are plenty. No doubt, these days you don’t feel up to it like you used to but experts have come up with some tips to get you in the mood.

Before bringing up the tips, it is important for pregnant women to know that the physical changes in pregnancy can also be an advantage for an amazing sex. This is because of the increased blood flow that makes  spectacular sensitivity in all the erogenous zones of a woman possible.

The awareness that we are trying to create here is for both players. The lips, vagina, clitoris, and breasts are exceptionally sensitive at this period, so, both the woman and the man should simply enjoy the moment. Only be careful not to be hard on the nipples, which can a bit painful.

Besides, love-making during pregnancy tends to  boost intimacy and connectedness between couples which will also help maintain a healthy pregnancy.

Invariably, that healthy relationship will equally result into healthier behaviours in the pregnant woman during pregnancy, delivery and better attitude after childbirth.

If you’re still wondering how to get in the mood while pregnant, just take time to follow the following tips by some experts.

Take it slow

When it comes to lovemaking during pregnancy, no pressure is needed. This is because most pregnant women usually have very low desire for intimacy. But, a romantic man can readily make it happen with the right touch in the right places and with a determination to make the woman look forward to it again.  This is where it is important for couples to read books that aim at rekindling desire and passionate fun in marriages. The man should focus on pleasurable actions, such as  foot massage, which increases oxytocin and arousal, body massage, fingering, licking and kissing. Women generally love sweet and soft touch from their men. If men will go gradually to touch and play with their pregnant women, getting down with them will not be any problem.

Part of taking things slow with pregnant women is in being considerate of the effect of the pregnancy on your woman. By this, the man must be conscious of the challenge  of pregnancy symptoms on the woman and then must be patient with her. He must not force her into a sexy mood but try again another time or wait for her second trimester when she is likely to feel better.

Better news is that though the third trimester brings the obstacle of a  huge bump, she is not put off sex.

As a reminder, pregnant women need to get a lot of grinding  in the third trimester because it is a measure towards easy delivery, according to medical experts.

Besides, there is no reason to be worried about having “too much” of it because it is a healthy venture.

Drop the mindset that that sex hurts unborn babies

Most pregnant women usually have this misconstrued belief that having  intercourse during pregnancy will harm their unborn  babies. Experts say the body  of a pregnant woman is designed in such a way that a baby is well protected in the uterus during pregnancy.

They reassure that with the cervix, nothing that goes inside the vagina whether a penis, finger, or toy can touch the baby.

The medical experts, therefore, recommend that partners focus on what is most erotic for them in order to fill their mind with sexy thoughts rather than thoughts that will keep them disconnected from getting aroused for lovemaking.

Rid the bedroom of distractions

Ditching distracting technology from the bedroom, relationship experts say, is important for pregnant women, especially to connect with their partners for 30 to 60 minutes a day in an uninterrupted, screen-free zone.

This, according to them will  boost their one-to-one  physical intimacy, which invariably will  connect them more emotionally. They should go about this by ditching the screens, meaning they should do away with their phones, tablets, TVs, or computers in the bedroom.

They should also try to create a romantic and comfortable space by tidying up and giving the room an appealing look.

Try and experiment with lighting or music to set a romantic mood.Only an insensitive or sick woman will not feel the signal.

Get erotic

Thinking and talking about sex before delving into the act helps keep you in the right frame of mind ahead of the exercise… Experts say as cheeky as it may sound, research has shown that couples who think dirty thoughts and use them in erotic talk have higher rates of having  more satisfying sex experience. In other words,thinking and talking dirty to each other will help get you in the mood.

Use pregnancy-safe lube

According to medical experts, pregnancy hormones  cause vaginal dryness. So, it is usual for couples to  use a lubricant  when planning for intimacy because it will make sex more pleasurable and erotic.

But, it is not all the lubes that are right for you. Experts recommend  water-based lubes that use pregnancy-safe ingredients.

They advised that you should avoid the ones with sugars and flavors, because they  can increase the likelihood of a yeast infection.

Those with fragrances and known allergens are also dangerous as they can cause a reaction.

Lubes with chemicals and additives, especially those that heat up or cool down sensitive skin, are to be avoided too because they can have adverse effects on the vagina.

Choose  a position that’s most convenient

 When having fun during pregnancy, choosing a comfortable position is very important.

To make the exercise more pleasurable, get creative with pillows. Remember that the position that  worked well in the first and  second trimesters for you may be less considerable in the third trimester.  For instance, such styles as woman on top, rear-entry like doggy style, and side-lying may not be right for you in your trimester because they are great options when the bump is just getting big. So, the onus is on you to find positions that allow you to sit and others alike. Feel free  to experiment and to find what feels good for both of you.

Intimacy helps provide feelings of happiness, pleasure, closeness, and vitality. So, do not be an ignorant pregnant woman, who shuns lovemaking just because of a big belly.