In a world where everyone is crazy about getting between ladies’ legs, not many care about calming down to explore this major erogenous zone above a woman’s waist: the nipples. Even when some women would go the extra but dangerous mile to enlarge their boobs, a large number of men around this climate seems not to know their ways around this delicate and sensitive part of the woman.
Some women confirmed this. “Most men that I have been intimate with were always rushing to get down with me whenever we had sex. Even when I could say boldly that my breasts are firm and seductive, they would just squeeze and rush through to get the deed done. I have had to wonder many times why they said they love busty girls,” said one of the women.
Rose is another woman who did not waste time to draw her conclusions about men. She said: ”From my little experience, I can boldly say most Nigerian men are really not romantic. They are rough and selfish in the area of lovemaking. It is clear that our breasts are only there to get them in the mood and once that is done, they care less about nothing more”.
”I have had real fun with just one man in my 45 years of adulthood. He seemed to be carrying out some experiments with the whole exercise because he took his entire time while at it. I knew it was a rare experience because ever since we lost contacts with each other, I have not had a similar experience. He touched me with an unusual calmness and expertise that made me beg him to have the whole of me. Even my boobs were screaming for excitement. Others at a point got me irritated when they sucked the boobs like babies”, recalled Rose.
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Without mincing words, men, no matter their culture, race, religion or class, love breasts. Some love them big while others prefer them small, perky or slightly saggy. In short, whether real or surgically enhanced, boobs are incredibly important in lovemaking. They’re a lot of fun to play with. But if you probably fail to know the best way to handle them in a way that’s pleasurable for both you and your partner, you, the man, may end up as a disappointment.
This is clear from the views of the women above and some others that space wouldn’t permit us to display, it is clear that some men are not doing enough where foreplay, especially in the handling of women’s boobs and most women are actually not pleased with that. And since it actually takes two to tango, I see this as an issue to be addressed.
According to a sex therapist, Mrs Liza Idohen, “Sex is an act that involves at least two players that look forward to a certain level of fun that most times cannot be verbally expressed. Where a party feels unreached, however, is not deserving of a raised thumb.”
In other words, the limitation of a partner is not only the other’s limitation but his failure.
This is where this week’s lesson becomes a secret that you need in that your relationship.
By breast orgasm, specifically, we are saying that you can aid your woman to achieve orgasm via the right touch here and there of the breast.
So what do we mean by nipple or breast orgasm?
Dr Idohen described it as “a pleasurable release that comes from sexual arousal ignited by nipple stimulation as against the common experience of the clitoris stimulation”.
Did you just say Wow! Do not stress yourself over it because unknown to many men, good handling of the nipple is really all that is needed to make most women melt in their hands.
As a matter of fact, just by mere stimulating of the nipples and the surroundings of the breast tissue, the expert says a sexual climax similar to that of a genital orgasm can be created.
One other unique thing about nipple orgasm is that it can be a precursor to a genital orgasm meaning it can cause multiple orgasms in one sexual attempt.
How then can you achieve a nipple orgasm?
Consistent Practice
Since people’s bodies vary from one person to the other, it is not the same thing that stimulates all. This is why it’s important you put your body through some experiments by listening to your body’s response as you make use of your hands. This self-discovery will help reveal the areas that pleasure you most ahead of your partner. You might even be surprised to find out that one of your nipples is more sensitive than the other.
How to self-examine?
Start with a soft touch on the nipples using your fingers or try massaging the entire breast, before going further to pinching, twisting, and squeezing the entire area. You can afterwards proceed to pull the nipple to meet your partner’s pleasure zones while ensuring to avoid some moves likely to put her off.
Other tips you must be mindful of to achieve pleasure through nipple orgasm are as follows:
Avoid going for the nipple right away
Honestly, this is one area most men get it wrong. Heading straight for her nipples just because she is undressed is never any way to get a woman aroused via her boobs. Only a baby does this because he sees the breasts as standing for a purpose -food. This, of course, is not the purpose for both of you at this time. To get your woman well stimulated this way, you need to work your way up. Start off by gently stroking or massaging the tops, bottoms, and sides of the breasts. Then, kiss her lightly on the neck, earlobes, and collarbone. This will help build anticipation and leave her wanting more.
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Move on to the areola.
This is one area that when well-worked on, will do the unexpected on your woman. The areola is the dark-coloured circle that surrounds the nipple. It is a very sensitive part of the woman’s breast but not many men and even women know this. As a matter of fact, findings show that it is actually more sensitive than the nipple itself. So, do each other a favour by focusing especially on the upper quadrant of the breast. Stroke gently the nipple and circle the areola with a finger, or circle the nipple with your thumb and forefinger. Of course, you will get her scream to the promised land.
Involve your mouth
Good use of your mouth will surely take you to this land of ecstasy. Mind you, this does not mean you should use your entire mouth to begin to suck like a starved child. Try using your tongue to draw circles very lightly around the nipple. Once the nipple is erect, flick it gently with your tongue a few times before slowly and gently taking the nipple into your mouth. Do not suck outrightly away but alternate between licking and sucking on the nipple. Should your partner have inverted nipples, which occur in approximately 10 to 20% of women, try and lure the nipples out with touching, kissing, licking and gentle sucking, but you might need to go a little harder. Unless for the last reason, do not engage in a hard or hungry-suck style.
After sucking for a while, you can give your partner a little break before beginning another round of gentle circling and stroking of her nipples over again. Trust me, the varied tactics will bring the pleasure that will escalate into a sweet outburst.
Don’t Bite
If you are one of those in the practice of biting her nipple while working on them, you must stop because it can never lead to achieving your aim of nipple orgasm. Even when she is writhing and moaning with pleasure, you shouldn’t get carried away to resort to biting or pulling her nipple. You may spoil whatever feeling you might have built over time. If you sense that your partner might want it rough at a point, increase the pace but do not bite. Ensure to give her pleasure not pain.
Quit Rough Handling
The habit of jiggling, honking or slapping a woman’s breast while making love to her is not welcome by some women.
Although some may very well be into it, it is important that you realise that such practice will not arouse a woman as much as what working on the nipples will do. This is because so much of breast sensitivity is concentrated in the nipple. I mean groping or jiggling will do literally nothing for most women just as why putting your penis in between your partner’s breasts, that some men do is weird to some women and will likely put them off.
Boost her confidence
Few women still feel shy when naked with their partners. Their reasons vary from unimpressive breast sizes to other negative feelings of their body shape and complexion.
Saying one or two complimenting words to her as she undresses will give her the confidence to trust and relax totally in your arms.
For instance, a study says women who are unhappy with their breast size, are 16 times more likely to hide their breasts during sex. And where this happens, the whole exercise becomes obstructed while the goal ends as a mirage. I mean in an activity like this, a man doesn’t just want to see his partner’s breasts, he also wants them to feel safe and secure and turned on. Definitely, seeing is not just believing here, it is instrumental in reaching goals.
In other words, try and do yourself a little favour by complimenting your partner’s breasts early in foreplay. Say something good about something on her body, her eyes, her high responsiveness to your touches or something as simple as “wow, I love your nipples…your boobs are just amazing…” They may just be what she needs to let down her stiffness.
The thumb rule of achieving nipple or breast orgasm is to embrace the “slow and steady” way of life. No rough and hasty man will ever take any woman on an orgasm ride through a breast play.
Try and take your time while at it and change the tempo only if your partner signifies interest.
All in all, with research conducted in the past 14 years showing that 81.5% of women reported that breast and nipple stimulation enhances their sexual arousal, leaving a percentage of just 7.2% of women claiming that breast and nipple stimulation had nothing to their arousal, you will agree with me that men clearly need to explore the fun of nipple orgasm for maximum pleasure of themselves and their partners, most especially.
So, ladies, if you are yet to have the pleasure of reaching orgasm through the right handling of your boobs, it’s time to let him know. Get him to see this piece, and make sure you put him through every bit of the process. Do not continue in silence and stop striving to please him all the time. Let it also be the other way round, after all, what is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
Enjoy.
