YEMISI OLUSINA
Are you one of those men who think women fancy sex just for procreation? Do you feel your wife is there to satisfy your sexual urge and not her own? Well, if your line of thought matches any of these, you may be committing a big error because just as Ray Parker sang several years ago, women need the love just as men do. They love to enjoy sex and look forward to it just as men do.
So, men should stop fooling themselves that women don’t love. Yes, they may be modest and not as forward and demanding as men but they sure love sex. That explains why they don’t like to call it sex like men; they love to call it lovemaking because they see it more of a way to showing love.
Strangely, most men, from the several discussions at our girlie corners are ‘Fire Brigadiers’. How? Many of them do not know that touching their women goes a long way to a fulfilling love life. They just make for their women whenever their third leg comes calling. They don’t care whether she is ready and needs to be put in the mood at all. They just want to empty their tanks and go their ways. Unfortunately, they are still the ones that go about to say their women don’t love sex because she does not respond well. Dear brothers, how would she, when you do not bother to reach out to her in any way? Now look at what we have here.
Beyond a woman’s vagina, butt, and breasts, which most men eagerly and frequently touch before the real action, there are more areas that can arouse a woman and make her get crazy for you. If you will in the name of love, begin to explore these areas as pre-intimacy, you will have greater testimonies.
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HER HAIR: Do you know that when a woman goes to the salon to beautify her hair, it is not just to maintain a gorgeous look? The process of wash, cut, colour, fix, braid and styling can actually be quite a stress reliever. Running your hands gently through her hair is a surefire way to send tingles down her spine. Let your fingers massage circles from her temples to the nape of her neck and she’ll be putty in your hands
PELVIS: Caressing her pelvis area is a great idea but, you’ll have to resist the urge to slip down to her vagina while you’re so close. Like teasing her inner thighs, kissing and licking around her pelvis will excite her until she’s begging for more. Prolong the sensation by leaving the region to focus on another body part for a while.
HER INNER THIGH: Like I said earlier, touching her inner thighs without venturing into the vaginal area will make for an excellent tease that is sure to get her revved up. Use your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs, getting excruciatingly close to her ultimate pleasure spot, but pulling back before going all the way. To make him enjoy this, women should ensure to stay clean and inviting for the success of this project.
HER FEET: Rubbing the feet of another man’s wife may be an offence punishable by death but this is your wife, so, you are free. For your information, the sensual appeal of a foot massage is obvious. There are few better ways to help her relax than to give her feet a good rub, especially if her job requires her to be on them all day. Do it right and grab some massage oil or lotion. Don’t forget to pay some attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. No woman will resist a massage on her aching feet. Make a try and you will see how easy she will succumb to your call.
HER EARLOBES: The earlobes are always very soft and sensitive. Touching, kissing and even lightly biting them will up the bliss factor for her. Most women thoroughly enjoy the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. You can nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but for courtesy’s sake, avoid dipping your tongue inside her ear.
PALMS OF HER HANDS: The palm of a woman’s hand is one spot a man should focus on any time they are together. Tracing your finger along her palm will give her delightful shivers and make you appear sensitive and attentive. So, beyond mere holding hands, work softly on them to inject and effect some pleasure on her.
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BEHIND HER KNEES: Gently caressing the back of your woman’s knee under her skirt while the two of you are in a public place will make her ready to get busy once you get home. Don’t forget to pay some more attention to this special spot once you’re alone too. You may not know this, but that area is a very sensitive place too.
HER BACK: Women love to be protected but you see; only a romantic man knows how to protect a woman to his advantage. For instance, the best way to guide your woman through a crowd is to place your hand against the small of her back. This small gesture shows that you feel protective of her without being too pushy like an arm around the shoulder might be. When you’re alone, kissing or licking down her spine to end up with a kiss on the small of her back will get her heart racing.
HER CLAVICLE: This is her collarbone and it can be very sexy to a woman. Pay attention to this body part while she’s still fully clothed, unbuttoning her shirt just enough to reveal the clavicle and no further. You can always come back to it once the clothes have disappeared as well to remind her of the anticipation it created when you started there.
NAPE OF HER NECK: In ancient Japan, the back of a woman’s neck was seen as very attractive by men since it was one of the few places not covered by clothing. In modern times, the nape of the neck is often neglected in favour of more obvious pleasure centres, but never underestimate the power of gentle touches and kisses from her hairline to her shoulders.
Every inch of a woman’s body is covered with nerve endings that could be stimulated. A gentle man, who will go the extra mile to touch, caress and kiss without smearing the places you are kissing with saliva will not only reach out to the woman but also get the best out of her.
The question now is who is ready to learn? Are you set to quit the Fire Brigade approach? Believe me, it is one common style that most women hate. Learn the new way and you will enjoy sex till death do you part.
