Great sex is the key to a successful and lasting relationship between a man and a woman. Without it, a relationship feels more of platonic or “just there” as many will readily say today. Unfortunately, while many men regularly “sleep” with their women, they have no idea whether their women get the satisfaction that the intercourse they have is meant to give them.
What we are saying here is that the fact that you “sleep” with your wife and able to produce children by the intimacy does not mean that you are pleasing your wife sexually. Why? A psychological study published in the Journal of S*x Research, reveals that women’s orgasms are increasingly seen as a marker of a healthy sex life for women.
They have a strong effect on men who have sex with women too, because some men have confessed that a woman’s orgasm is one of their most sexually satisfying experiences, describing feelings of confidence and accomplishment in connection to their female partners’ orgasm occurrence. Men who have s*x with women feel happier and more masculine if they are able to make their female partners orgasm during s*x, a psychological study finds.
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In short, it means if you are unable to give your woman a deep satisfying round of sex, she will be left unsatisfied and in today’s world where it is no longer a taboo to break a relationship, such a woman may leave you for another man who can make her feel very satisfied on bed.
So, exactly what is orgasm? Simply put and for this purpose, it is a woman’s ability to ‘come’ during a sexual act with her partner. This has been discovered to be a problem most women encounter in their relationship. Most of them do not achieve orgasms as easily as men. While most men climax without difficulty, most women do not. For them, it is the exception to always reach orgasm and not the norm. For instance, it takes men 2-5 minutes to orgasm but takes women 5 times longer (20 – 30 minutes) to explode into a wave of pleasure.
While many are silent about it, some are not which is part of what is causing a lot of damage to marriages in society today. If a woman has never had an orgasm in life, experts say it is known as Primary Orgasmic Dysfunction. If she has been able to climax in the past, but currently unable to achieve orgasms, this is known as Secondary Orgasmic Dysfunction.
If you are one who wants to achieve this in the name of selflessness, below are some tips you should consider:
Making a woman orgasm is mostly about getting her in the mood prior to s*x by triggering her feelings of attraction for you. You can trigger her feelings of attraction by way of your actions, touch and behaviour.
Her ability to orgasm or “come” has more to do with her perception of you as a man, how she feels about being penetrated by you and the emotional state you get her into before and during s*x.
When you create the right type of relationship dynamic between you and your woman, it will be easy for her to reach orgasm without you having to spend a lot of time on foreplay or romance.
- Be a man
The most important element in making your woman able to reach orgasms with you is to be a man. From the very first moment a woman meets you and right through the entire relationship, she will constantly be assessing your level of masculinity. An obvious example of masculinity is the way you hug her like when on the couch, around the house or while on an outing. Do you cuddle up to her, or do you get her to cuddle up to you? If you will consider these consistently as a man, your woman will find it easy to orgasm with you.
- Make her feel lucky to be having s*x with you
Fact: Women want to feel lucky to be with you in a relationship. They don’t want to feel as though they are doing you a favour by being with you or having s*x with you.
When I realized that women wanted to feel lucky to be with the guy they had chosen, it suddenly made sense to me why women always seemed to reject wimpy nice guys and go for confident guys who believed in themselves.
If you think it’s a little chauvinistic or arrogant to feel as though she is lucky to be with you, then you’ve probably been brainwashed by some things or some people. The right dynamic between a man and a woman is to make her feel lucky to be having s*x. It’s not about telling her that she should feel lucky, but being the sort of man that she knows other women would love to be with in a relationship as well as in the bedroom.
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- During oral s*x, focus more on her clitoris
Oral sex is the easiest way to make a woman orgasm. If you cannot lick her clit, try and touch gently. If you touch it as a formality, you will definitely not achieve anything. The secret to making a woman orgasm with oral s*x is to simply focus on licking her clit.
The thing that makes most women orgasm is to simply focus on this in consistent, repetitive patterns. Get into a rhythm and stick with it, so she can relax and begin to guide herself mentally towards an orgasm.
When you notice that her body starts to tense up, don’t switch to another pattern, just keep going until she orgasms.
If she is tensing up and appears to be close to having an orgasm, but still doesn’t have one after about 30 seconds, rapidly switch to another pattern and keep that going at a fast but gentle pace. In those cases, she will usually orgasm within 10 seconds after that.
When she is experiencing the orgasm, don’t stop or switch to another pattern, just keep going until she pushes you away.
When she pushes you away, it means she peaked, enjoyed the orgasm and is now finished. When the orgasm finishes, her clit will become very sensitive and any licking or touching will usually be slightly or even very painful for her.