To Human Psychologists and religious groups, every wife is a kingmaker. Unfortunately, not many women understand this, so, they underestimate their strength and God-given grace.
She has the power to build him up or tear him down. For those who are yet to come to terms with their power, now is the time to come to that consciousness.
With the excitement that usually accompanies this festive season, it is important that you change your pattern of relating with your husband and embrace the tactics of using romantic words on him and see the magic that this will have on your relationship and the family as a whole.
One major way of going about this is the use of words of affirmation.
From the man’s perspective, if his woman doesn’t believe in him . . . isn’t fanatically committed to his potential, it doesn’t matter much what others think, the man believes he’s already living in Thoreau’s muse, a diminished man.
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But with words of affirmation, men feel good and like to have and thrive with it. Although typically, men are quiet about these things, that doesn’t mean they need and enjoy their wife’s affirmation any less. And every man feels that when his woman is behind him, he can slay dragons.
Here are a few words to fill your dragon-slayer with the vigour of life.
Words of appreciation
Men love to be appreciated at all times and uttering words such as:
‘Thanks for being a great husband’,
‘I’m glad you’re my friend,’
If he just paid the children’s school fees or did anything for the kids, show him some appreciation with words like, ’You are a great dad’;
’Thanks so much for fixing that, I really appreciate you’.
Love can be fickle and desire could wane over time. Letting your partners know that you appreciate all they do for you will incentivize them to continue their good and wanted behaviour.
Make sweet references to his good traits. For example,
‘When you listened to me, you made me feel loved’;
‘You are my man’ or
’You are my protector’.When he performs his fatherly and husbandly duties, compliment him.
Examples of such complementary words are ’I respect you so much’;
‘Thanks for working so hard’.
‘You’re an excellent provider’
‘You make me feel like a Lady’
‘I love being with you’
’You’re so smart. You’re amazing!”;
’Thank you, that was really kind.’
When he takes you out on a date, make him feel great. Say such words as –
’You’re so strong’;
’You know how to make me happy’;
’When you hold me tight, I feel safe with you’;
’I love your sense of humour’;
’Thanks for the date . . . I enjoyed being with you’;
’Thank you for thinking of me’;
’You’re so considerate’;
’You’re a great lover’.
Tell him you’re lucky to have him
”Men take great pride in feeling like they’ve bettered our lives,” says Blessing Ideh, a relationship expert.
So, say any of these words to him:
’Thanks for helping around the house.
It’s fun having you in my life’;
’You are one handsome man’;
’You are an unselfish person’;
’I’ve learned so much from you’;
’Our kids are fortunate you are their dad’;
’I’m a better woman because you’re my husband. I mean that’;
’You are my favourite person in the entire world’;
’I want to grow old with you’.
Apologise when you’re wrong
Women are famed for always wanting to be right even when they are blatantly wrong. It is a common thing to hear people say that a man must be willing and ready to apologise every time even if he’s not the wrong one.