Some months ago, the news about a squabble, involving a top-positioned politician and an attendant at a s*x toy outfit in Abuja went viral and this resulted in all kinds of controversy.
Well, we are not here today to answer questions like “what was he doing there or why he did what he did?” We are here to make us more informed, educated and empowered on issues around this peculiar object known as ‘s*x toys’.
While it is important that I remind us that this column remains strictly for the matured and open-minded individuals, the topic, whether we want to believe it or not, is trending.
Recent findings have revealed that in the age of Fifty Shades of Grey, these toys have become widely accepted and talked about openly, with an unusual liberation everywhere.
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For instance, a study by the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that both males and females alike have high positive and low negative beliefs about women’s fun toy, which they simply describe as ‘pleasure toys’.
But most men see them as threats that tend to make them irrelevant. The good news here is that, these toys are far from being a replacement for you if indeed you will be humble enough to find reasons I say this in this write-up.
According to a therapist, Mrs. Gladys Imeh, s*x toys are pleasure toys that can be used to fulfill a woman’s sexual needs when her partner is not available or during intercourse for new experiences and sensations that could stimulate multiple orgasms.
In simple words, these toys are not only relevant when men are not around, they are good for fun discoveries.
If you are wondering why these tools have become must-haves for many ladies these days, the following tips will convince you more,
Highlights Self-love
Self-love is very important where sensuous feeling is concerned. Along with being a great way to unwind, solo-play, according to experts, can help women feel comfortable and familiar with their bodies. In addition, loving one’s body is a sure-fire way to find out exactly what one likes and where she likes it. Although some men feel threatened by their partner using these toys, it is important to reassure them that they are not a replacement and that you are not dissatisfied with them. In other words, women should take it upon themselves to let their men know that once you as a woman knows how to pleasure yourself, he can learn how to pleasure you, too.
“Let’s take for instance the common vibrators, such as the First Time Jack Rabbit Waterproof Vibrator, which stimulates both the clitoris and the g-spot for multiple sensations. Watching how a woman feels while using it will not only work well for her, but will be a good lead to you, as a man the next time you are faced with the same assignment,” says Imeh.
Increases their libido
Women who use vibrators may feel higher levels of sexual desire and arousal due to experiencing sexual feelings more often, and in turn could begin to crave more intimacy.
In a survey of 2,000 women by The Centre For Sexual Health Promotion, recently, it was found that women using vibrators experienced higher levels of desire, lubrication and arousal, and rather than diminishing interest in s*x, it boosts a woman’s libido and sexual drive. You wouldn’t want your woman to lose interest in love-making, so, why not enjoy what technology has offered as a helping hand?
Experimenting in many of these toys can be good for your libido. Examples, the ones called Nipple Suckers are perfect for increased sensitivity and ideal for those who want to stimulate their nipples at the same time as focusing on down under.
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Improved sexual experience for two
S*x is exciting at first, and you both want to explore everything together, but generally somewhere down the line, it might get a little monotonous with your safe routine, same positions and locations and not really bothering to spice things up. Adding the toys to the mix can help you both achieve pleasure that you’ve never felt before.
“You can use a vibrator during intimacy to ensure maximum stimulation or you can use another type for couples, such as Fifty Shades of Grey, Yours and Mine, Vibrating Love Ring to give you both a delicious orgasm.
It is a good way to take your intimacy to the next level and explore new erotic adventures together. This will bring you closer together both inside and outside the bedroom.
It’s good for your health
Unlike the perception of many, these fun toys can help to relieve women of vulva pain. This is confirmed by a study by the University of North Carolina, and can make intercourse less painful and intimacy more enjoyable.
You will recall that in the 19th century, vaginal massage was a common treatment for ‘hysteria’ in women. Such symptoms in patients from nervousness, insomnia and faintness to lack of appetite were treated by doctors, using vibrators at an asylum.
So, what’s the big deal in being your own physician with any of the body massagers?
Tightens her
We all know that a tighter underneath equals more sexual enjoyment both for the man and the woman and this is what one of the toys can achieve.
To strengthen the PC muscle, experts say an exercise toy ball can be used before intercourse or during to further increase pleasure.
They come in different names and it is clear that whatever gives maximum pleasure will no doubt, help to stimulate a powerful orgasm.
Relieves stress and improves sleep
Stress and lack of sleep often come hand in hand and one way to avoid both is through the power of orgasm.
A hormone called Oxytocin is released during orgasm, which evokes feelings of contentment and calmness and reduces anxiety. This ‘love hormone’ also helps aid a restful sleep, so you will feel refreshed the next day ready to repeat the process again. Since most intimacy do not end in orgasm, it is paramount that a way to achieve this be embarked on especially with the benefits attached. Try to relieve stress via a sensual massage, using a massage oil and you will discover the magic that can come with it.
In conclusion, I think women needn’t feel embarrassed about using fun toys and men shouldn’t see the toys as competitors because sexuality is simply another part of our lives that needs nurturing and expressing.
As much as we love our partner, and making love with them is intimate and irreplaceable, going the extra mile with these toys should not be any big deal.
They do not only make women achieve orgasm much easier than any organic stimulation could provide, using these toys will open your eyes as a man to new exciting possibilities and help you discover much more about yourself.