Whether we like it or not sex, when it’s good, it’s good, and when it is made great, boy, it becomes unforgettable. If you have not gotten to that level where you can boast of having had a great sex at one time or another, then, you are yet to get there and my serious admonition is that you just strive for the great experience.
For those who have had it, they usually say, it got registered at that time they pushed their boundaries. I mean it can only be great when you just blow your sensuous lid. It is far from the daily routine of yours, it isn’t the regular ‘dos.’ This is backed up by experts, who say, sexual passion and arousal are particularly prone to a phenomenon called “hedonic adaptation.” What they are trying to say is that if what you feel or what they say you give is still of business-as-usual between the sheets, then, you need to step up your game. And for the records, this holiday time when, at least, there are days for public holidays are your best bet to pull this through. You really must try something different now.
Put on a show
This season, try having each other outside the home. Pick a hotel but arrive at the place at different times. The anxiety, the aura around all of these fill you up with desire, even before you set eyes on each other. See, it does no negativity on either your personality or belief. Instead, it makes you happier, healthier and better focused, even days after.
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Studies by therapists reveal that while male fantasies focused on orgasm, female fantasies centered on being the object of desire. A large number of women want to be watched, worshipped and lured into sex like a first timer. Besides renting a hotel room, you can try to make love to each other while the windows are open and it feels like someone is watching. It is all an act. Just make sure the atmosphere is different from how you normally have it. If you are the type that usually travels home on holidays like this, do not stay in your family house, get a hotel but stay with your people for a larger part of the time. Setting out to your hotel room has a way of setting you on fire before the real show.
Get pranking
Try and watch erotic films together and learn one or two things from there to put into practice. For instance, you can try to spray each others with ice blocks (just be sure of your health status). The feeling is no doubt going to be strange and the aftermath; I can assure you will be blissful. If you’re both younger, you can try the binding game, ‘bind’ your partner’s wrists with tissue, don’t make it too tight (she knows she can break out, but she can appreciate the mental game), and then have your way with her.
Be careful to engage in some foreplay, take your time as you do this. The more planning involved, the better. You may also try to give her a massage, starting from her behind. Let her lie on her tummy, so that you will be able to spend some time before pouncing on her. There are some oil for this purpose, get some and begin to gently rub it on her back, taking your time on her feet and shoulders… God help both of you to be able to get through it. Let her also do for you too after a while.
Give her the room
Dedicating time to a woman and making an outing all about her has a way of getting through them. One study found that women are most likely to orgasm from a variety of sexual acts, including oral sex, than they are from just intercourse alone. Plus, some women have trouble finding the time they need, and deserve, for pleasure, while most men love to please women sexually, but may require direction.
For instance, let her be free to do things the way she wants, dress, pack her hair, move around as she likes and insist that she packs skimpy wears to such a date to make her look different. Get her to look through the window and hold her from behind without her knowledge. Turn her around and do one or two things around her her eyes before kissing her. Do stuff you don’t regularly do and you will be shocked at your spouse’s response.
Get company
Getting company does not mean you should go and bring someone in, No! The presence of a third party in form of a mirror, showing you two in action or a playing porn movie at the background can result into a hot sex that both of you have never had. A recent survey of more than 5,000 people around the world reveals that nearly one in five has tried a threesome. Part of the appeal of a threesome is the fact that you feel someone is watching while doing it in front of a mirror, which I am sure, consciously or not, many people would have witnessed if they make love with light on
Go wet and wild
When last do you have sex in your bath tub? If you don’t have at home, most hotel rooms do. If there’s room for two in the bath (if you’re using condoms, avoid bubble baths or soaps as bath and shower gels can reduce condom efficacy), go on top while he uses the side of the tub to thrust; that combined with the weightless sensation in the water can make the position feel more intense than it would be in bed.
Every opportunity used to have fun and be happy makes way for longevity. Try and make sex hotter this season for a tale of an unforgettable experience of a lifetime.